I am keeping my aunt company, who just lost her husband of 59 years. I will be here until Thursday morning, when I will drive the 3 hours to home. It's hard for me to understand, but there will be no service, no memorial and even no balloons released(my suggestion). It feels so odd not to have a special time to say good bye to my uncle. My cousin and I ran some errands and he and I were talking about saying goodbye to a loved one. He understands that this is what his dad said he wanted.
But a memorial or a service is for the people left behind, not the one who died, isn't it? It's for us who are left behind to deal with the passing in some way. Usually a service in church--which was not an option for my uncle, as he was not a believer in God, or a memorial where friends and family gather to remember and say goodbye.
Maybe just my cousin and I will do something, cause I know that he would like to do something. I'm going to talk to him about it today.
See you all on blog!
That would be nice even if just you two did something in remembrance of your uncle. It just gives you that closure thing.
ReplyDeleteMiss ya but I know your visit there is really a comfort to your aunt! God bless you all there.
Christie